Are You the Bully?

Now that school is back and rolling along the topic of bullying is a popular discussion, but let's think of this scenario in a relationship perspective. Are you are bully in your marriage? When you think of a bully, the mental picture painted is usually the big kid on the play ground verbally picking on an innocent victim and stealing his lunch money, leaving that poor little guy or girl feeling defenseless and angry.

In an ideal world a relationship would resemble a cooperative team, where you both work at an equal level to achieve the same goal: success. At times even in a relationship a power struggle can develop causing one partner to pick on the other to demonstrate power and boost their self-confidence. Have you ever had an argument with your partner and absolutely refused to budge on the verdict, as well as refused to even listen to their complaint and even became angry, irritated, and frustrated when they dared to bring up the topic? Yep, that was bullying. To prove your power and seniority you picked on your partner like the play ground bully, took away their possibility of a compromise (lunch money), and left them feeling helpless and of course angry.

Here's your ah-ha moment. Even the bully can learn a lesson from his mistake and become a team player. When an inner struggle of self-worth, self-esteem, or self-confidence arises be aware of who's on your side, team up and enjoy the play times in life.