The D-Word. That dreaded word: DIVORCE. As of now consider it your new "four-letter word", not to be thrown around in the context of an argument.
"Maybe we should just get a divorce."
"I'm through! I want a divorce."
"Why don't you just divorce me then."
How does it feel for one partner to throw that threat out there in the midst of an argument just to be hurtful or even hateful? Too often one party will utter those dreadful words and open that door of possibility. Is it even an option in your marriage? Say the D-Word and it will be. Let’s get hypothetical for a moment. You’re in the middle of a knock-down, drag-out fight with your spouse, at your wits end and cannot even remember what insignificant detail started the argument in the first place. Next thing you know, he/she throws out: “Maybe we should just get a divorce!” Whoa, hold the phone… that’s a possibility now? Does he/she really feel that way? Is that where we’re heading inevitably? The perception of your relationship just changed for the worst and trust is now a major issue. The D-Word has reared its ugly head and opened that door. The fact that a typical marital argument (that we all have) turned into a downward spiral of ‘what-ifs’ could have been avoided. Take a break, timeout, cool-off period. Whatever you and your partner wish to call it- remove yourself from the heated situation before one of you says something that cannot be forgotten or forgiven for that matter. Take some deep breaths, bring it down a notch, and yes, dare I say, come to a compromise. The making-up process can be so much fun and bring a couple closer than ever, so remember fighting is okay. Learn how to express your differences and anger, come to a compromise, and enjoy reaping the benefits of your success as your relationship grows stronger. And avoid the D-Word!
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